For most of my life I’ve been a ‘grass-is-greener’ type of person. If I just lived in this city, if I just had that kind of relationship, if I finally sorted out x, y, and z in my life, then I’d feel content and life would be good.
It’s only been in the past few months that I feel like I’ve started to learn the beauty of allowing yourself to bloom where you’ve been planted. I wish I could title this post Learn How to Be Happy With Your Life or something along those lines- something offering some sort of brilliant advice. But my honest truth? I don’t think it’s something that advice helps you with. You have to find your own path to that realization- that you can learn to be happy under many different circumstances. I wish it was something I had learned long ago- but that is yet another level of acceptance in itself- of being kind to yourself for not having known sooner. I had to lose people that I love, and ruin the things I did have, in the fruitless search of something better to fill the void.
And I do want to note that while this sort of acceptance can only be reached within yourself, that I didn’t do it on my own. It took many years of therapy and very dark places to come to terms with the idea that happiness is internal; you can search to the ends of the earth and never find happiness if you search for it like a quest. Happiness is all around if you only learn to quiet the mind.
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